Friends at work? (was: Good interview questions)

Subject: Friends at work? (was: Good interview questions)
From: Cathy Krusberg <ckberg -at- IX -dot- NETCOM -dot- COM>
Date: Fri, 25 Jul 1997 23:00:21 -0500

Alexia Prendergast <alexiap -at- seagatesoftware -dot- com> wrote:

[in a list of "good" interview questions]

>Tell me about your friends at work.
>(Avoid people who don't make friends at work [anti-social] and
>those who use work as a means of making friends [social
>butterflies]. Most of us fall in between these two
>extremes. I made the mistake of hiring one person at each
>extreme....)

Is it really considered such a bad thing not to make friends
at work? I've always studiously avoided it. If I did have a
friend at work, I made a point of not having non-work-related
interactions with her on work time. Yes, I have a Puritan
work ethic, but some of us just *are* that way. I don't think
it necessarily makes for a bad employee. (When I left my last
job, the dept. head all but begged me not to quit. Even though
I didn't count any other current employees as my friends.)

I have very few friends, period; it would be an impressive
coincidence if one of them worked for the same employer.
This doesn't make me antisocial; it just means I'm more of
a thing person than a people person. I am. In a work
environment I'm capable of cooperating with others (I will even
share my crayons! :) ). I have contributed positively as a
committee member and have had good working relationships with
people inside and outside my department.

And once I leave the workplace, I leave them behind. I'm sure
those of you who are people persons will think that's sad, but
for me it's just how I separate my work life from my personal
life. Does that really make me antisocial -- or undesirable as
an employee?

Cathy Krusberg
Internet: ckberg -at- ix -dot- netcom -dot- com

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