RE: How to take a compliment (was RE: R-E-S-P-E-C-T me! (Please!) )

["Melissa Nelson" <melmis36 -at- hotmail -dot- com>]

  Well, actually he complimented me the next day. He understood what I meant.
  Believe me, I am the biggest proponent of honey over vinegar there is, but
  there are also times you have to stand up for yourself..and your
  profession.  Offices are made up of not just people, but personalities. Oten
  getting along with co-workers means knowing their personalities and acting
  accordingly. There are other developers I would just thank you and grumble
  on the inside, with this one I can grumble on the outside. :)

  Melissa
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    From:  "Combs, Richard" <richard -dot- combs -at- Polycom -dot- com>
    To:  <techwr-l -at- lists -dot- techwr-l -dot- com>
    Subject:  How to take a compliment (was RE: R-E-S-P-E-C-T me! (Please!) )
    Date:  Wed, 13 Sep 2006 12:20:14 -0600
    >Snip #1:
    >
    > >    it is the only one I can think of). For example, a
    > > developer complimented me
    > >    the other day by saying I was very good at my job and a
    > > "real asset", unlike
    > >    most technical writers that he has worked with who really
    > > didn't know
    > >    anything. I replied that I am probably no better than any
    > > other technical
    > >    writer he has worked with in the past, he just didn't take
    > > the time to work
    > >    with them, and it took me months to get him to understand
    > > what I do. He just
    > >    shrugged. SIGH :)
    >
    >I suspect that's the last time he'll try to compliment your work.
    >
    >Snip #2:
    >
    > > When I created my first help file for them, one of the
    > > developers looked at it and said, "Wow!  That looks
    > > professional!"  I wanted to say, "Is your code amateurish?"
    > > or, "What do you think they pay me for?  Cleaning out the
    > > refrigerator?"
    >
    >I hope you smiled and said, "Why, thanks!" instead.
    >
    >General rule: When someone compliments you, thank them. Don't insult,
    >belittle, or attack them.
    >
    >As Dick said:
    >
    > > This is not rocket science. It's basic Dale Carnegie. If you
    > > feel people don't respect you, don't blame them; they're just
    > > reacting to the persona you present.
    >
    >Richard
    >
    >
    >------
    >Richard G. Combs
    >Senior Technical Writer
    >Polycom, Inc.
    >richardDOTcombs AT polycomDOTcom
    >303-223-5111
    >------
    >rgcombs AT gmailDOTcom
    >303-777-0436
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