RE: seeking editing feedback

["MacDonald, Stephen" <Stephen -dot- MacDonald -at- Aspect -dot- com>]

>> Steve MacDonald wrote:
>> In my experience, most folks who claim such insight and self-knowledge
are
>> simply tired of hearing the feedback on things about themselves which
they
>> don't want to change.
>
>  Dick Margulis wrote:
>Regarding your last comment, I'm not sure I get your point. To take my own
>example, I know I'm a curmudgeon and lots of people find me abrasive and 
>obnoxious. That's a personal insight. I have neither the skills nor the
>desire to change those aspects of my personality. That's another personal
>insight. Yes, I'm tired of hearing the feedback, and no, I don't care that
>some people don't like me. What's your point? That people who go through
>life totally oblivious to the way other people perceive them are nicer?
>I don't know that this is necessarily the case.

You began the paragraph I quoted with "We don't need no stinkin surveys" and
asserted that personal insight should be all that's necessary to evaluate
your effect on coworkers.  I disagree with that view.

Certainly we should all work to develop insight, but in my opinion even the
very best of us at it don't become good enough to say we no longer need
honest appraisal of our work and personal style by coworkers.

"What's your point?  That people who go through life totally oblivious to
the way other people perceive them are nicer?"  No, my point is that in my
experience coworkers who assert they "don't need no stinkin surveys" are
usually the ones who need them most. YMMV

fwiw,
Steve MacDonald
Aspect Communications, Inc.